This very fear and doubt could be hindering you from finding love! An enormous amount of women are hitting their mid 30's and setting into panic. Their heart starts to throb with urgency to find a father for their children. Yet they are consumed with doubt they will actually find someone in time. They live in fear that they will choose a bad seed and stall the process even longer.

As a result, dating is filled with pressure. It blocks them from being themselves, having fun and attracting love with ease and they end up prolonging the process of finding a mate. What's more, they rob themselves of the enjoyment of discovering new relationships.

The positive realisation is that when they let go of the struggle to find a mate 'in time' the opportunities flow. They stop looking for Mr Perfect, start to relax and become more open to love. They take more action to find love and feel less afraid of making a wrong decision. They see the evidence that the single best way to find the man of their dreams and have a family is to let go and enjoy.

A couple of years ago I coached a highly successful women, Mandy, who came to me to work out her future career path. After exploring possibilities, her real desires surfaced. She had always had her heart set on having kids by 31. When this didn't happen, she constantly beat herself up. Dating became painful because she put so much pressure on herself. She threw herself into her work to avoid facing her disappointment.

When she came to coaching, Mandy was well into her 30's and had given up on having kids. However, by working through her disappointment and letting go of the pressure, Mandy was able to create a new perspective. She started to believe that when the timing was right, she would have kids. She decided to focus on allowing a relationship into her life first. With the release of disappointment and pressure, her choice of career path also became obvious - the one that supported finding love and a family.

Are you putting body-clock pressure on yourself? If so, its time to shift your focus and let go of the struggle! Let's face it, struggling is hard work. But how do you give it up?

• Stop Thinking in Terms of Time Lines

Worrying about an approaching age is futile. It achieves nothing, other than pressure. Any time you start to think about a looming time line, shift your focus to this very moment and what you are going to do right now to be happy and attract love.

• Refuse to Indulge in Doubt

Doubt creates the very thing we don't want. It creates resistance and pressure. Any time doubt surfaces, say to yourself 'oh there's that doubt again' and make the choice to focus instead on what you want.

• Focus on Love as If You Already Have it

Spend time creating a vision of a loving relationship and family as if you have it in your life now. Experience how good it feels, who is there, what you are doing together. Regularly recreate this vision in your mind.

• Get Out and Enjoy Being Single

The greatest way to let go is to go out and have fun. Dating is about more than just finding a life long partner and father of your children. See dating as a great opportunity to get to know people, build your confidence, understand yourself and have fun. Take advantage of being single - before it disappears.

• Stop Taking Everything So Seriously

All that seriousness drains you of energy and pizzazz. It's blocking you from attracting love. We're attracted to people who are buzzing with life, exuding enthusiasm and indulging in fun. What more could you want to hear as a strategy than to lighten up and enjoy!

Stop letting the tick-tock of your body clock rule the roost. Let go of the pressure and you'll find love in time. Whatever your age, accept it right now and move on! Embrace your future, shine with enthusiasm and you'll quickly discover the rest takes care of itself.

by Sacha Crouch